"I don't know what I want to be."
It is such a common yet profound statement that is uttered day-in and day-out. If you are like me I uttered this statement countless times as senior in high school, and true be told, countless more times in life. But too rarely do we stop and ask ourselves "what am I suppose to be"?
Discuss: What's the difference between what you want to be and what you are suppose to be?
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'What I want', means that deep down inside, I can do whatever I please to do without worrying what other people think. However, 'What I am suppose to be', is what society wants from you, and what is expected of you (not necessarily something that you truly wish for). I think that most of us go for the 'What I am suppose to be' because we are too concerned with impressing others and making sure we fit in with the 'crowd', rather than being our true selves.
By: Priya Sarna
6th Period Class
What an individual wants to be lies within their personal desires. It is similar to the idea of ID. We all have an idea of what we want to be, something that will bring us happiness. What we are supposed to be is something that we are meant to discover, just like our meaning.
What I want has to do with what I love to do or something that will make me happy. What i am supposed to do has to do with what is expected of me. If your lucky the two might intertwine.
In order to be what you want a all a person is required to do is fulfill their most immediate desires. Being what you want requires a certain level of selfishness. One has to look past the needs of others around them and only go after what it is that they are concerned with or what will satisfy their desires. However, what you are supposed to be requires a different set of actions entirely. In order to fulfill what you are supposed to be one must offer surrender to everyone's expectations of them. This type of person constantly looks to impress or entertain but may lack a true connection with what makes their own self truly happy.
I think that a person can almost always be something that they want to be if they try hard enough, even if that's not what they are meant to be. Sometime people never become what they are supposed to be or want to be. However, i think that what a person is supposed to be is what they truly want to be.
Justin S-V
That which an individual wishes to be represents the true desires of their hearts--that is, these yearnings are uninhibited and uninfluenced by external factors such as financial need, societal pressure, etc. For example, what a mathematically talented student wishes to be may not be a mathematician, but a guitar player in a punk rock band or a professional psychologist. What one wants to be need not entail their skills or talents, but could involve their passions, such as that for music.
What an individual is supposed to be refers to a person's "calling." That is to say, it refers to the occupation/activity a person must pursue in order to achieve their ultimate purpose and give back to society/inspire others. This notion does entail the use of one's unique skills and talents. For example, though a mathematically gifted student may desire to be a rock star, he or she may possess no musical talent whatsoever. In light of this fact, it can be suggested that their purpose was not to inspire and enlighten others through music, but to do so through their skills--in this case, through mathematics.
Written by: Alexis Bargione
Period 9
"What you want to be" changes many times throughout one's life. I wanted to play on the Knicks when I was a little guy, but now I do not. "What you are supposed to be" does not change. This doesn't mean that you can't change fate and it doesn't mean that you will automatically become that person/job, but it will always remain what you were "meant" to do/be.
I'd say that in a perfect world, one could do what they want and what they are supposed to do in the same line of work.
I think when someone says "What do you want to be" i think of a doctor or a lawyer, things that i want to achieve during my lifetime. It is want you want from yourself. The desires you want to achieve. What you are supposed to be, that talks more about society as a whole or the expectations one has for you. We are way to concerned with what others think about us, rather then just being who we are.
C-Dowdall
What we want to be can change from moment to moment. What we are meant to be stays the same. It is all in the big plan.
What you want can mean the person has a passion for their desire. Whenever someone wants something it is because they see themselves doing it. On the other hand, what you suppose to be is what people think you should be and makes you forget about your wants and focus on what people think you should be.
Antonio Jenkins
Mr. Penna's favorite class! (6th)
What a person wants to be is what they desire most. What a person is supposed to be what is expected of them by others that are important to them in their lives such as their family and friends, sometimes what a person wants and what others expect of them is not the same which makes a person have to choose between the two.
'What i want to be' is what we want to become because we believe that is what we truly want for ourselves. 'What we are supposed to be' is what we have to be to be happy in our lives according to society.
I think if someone asks you what you want to be, they're asking you to think of your dream job. What you would want to be without any restrictions or without being based off grades, schools, test scores or anything. I feel like if someone asked you what you are supposed to be, they are really asking you what you're expected to be or what is more realistic for you, without you being able to dream about it or be creative with it.
The difference between the two is that “what you want to be” should stem from what makes you happy, or what you’d really want to be doing with your life. However, “what you’re supposed to be,” according to society, is have a job that pays your own way so that you contribute positively to society. For example, we’re all students right now (what we’re supposed to be), but I’m sure we’d all rather be doing something else (what you want to be).
"What I want to be" in comparison to "what i am supposed to be", though they sound similar, differs on many counts. "What I want to be" focuses on desire. It is simply what you alone want. However, "what I am supposed to be" focuses more on the needs of society. It is how you can benefit others, not only yourself
What i want to be is what i personally want and desire. What i am supposed to be is what your family friends and the people you are in contact with want you to become. I have always wanted to play sports for a living. I realized i was not supposed to play sports when i stopped growing in 6th grade and a massive 5 ft 6.
What we want to be is usually what we think we want. People may want to be a doctor and go into pre-med and realize it is not for them at all. What we want to be does not always work out, it is a desire. What we are supposed to be is our destiny. Sometimes we don't always plan things, they just happen; and what ever happens, happens, and that is the way our lives were meant to end up.
What we want to be is usually what we think we want. People may want to be a doctor and go into pre-med and realize it is not for them at all. What we want to be does not always work out, it is a desire. What we are supposed to be is our destiny. Sometimes we don't always plan things, they just happen; and what ever happens, happens, and that is the way our lives were meant to end up.
There are two ways we could look at that statement. The first way to look at it is that there are things we want and aspire to in life. And then there are things we find less interesting that people want us to do. The second way to look at it is that there are things we want to do but we are not very good at. And the things we are suppose to do, it is our calling. Both reasonings apply.
The difference between what you want to be and what you are suppose to be is the difference between an aspiration and the process of reaching that aspiration. What you want to be is the aspiration. I want to be a film director. What I am suppose to be is determined by my experiences in attempting to reach my aspiration of being a director. Through those experiences, I might find out that I am not really cut out to be a director and that I am really better suited to being an actor or a writer. In trying to become what I want to be, I find out what I am really suppose to be.
The difference between what you want to be and what you are suppose to be is the difference between an aspiration and the process of reaching that aspiration. What you want to be is the aspiration. I want to be a film director. What I am suppose to be is determined by my experiences in attempting to reach my aspiration of being a director. Through those experiences, I might find out that I am not really cut out to be a director and that I am really better suited to being an actor or a writer. In trying to become what I want to be, I find out what I am really suppose to be.
The difference between what you want to be and what you are suppose to be is the difference between an aspiration and the process of reaching that aspiration. What you want to be is the aspiration. I want to be a film director. What I am suppose to be is determined by my experiences in attempting to reach my aspiration of being a director. Through those experiences, I might find out that I am not really cut out to be a director and that I am really better suited to being an actor or a writer. In trying to become what I want to be, I find out what I am really suppose to be.
What we want, generally, are things that will bring us lesser, more immediate happiness. What we're supposed to do is the task we were put on this earth to accomplish. We may go our entire lives without ever knowing what it is. Perhaps deep down, what we most desire and what we were born to do, in some ways, are the same.
Michael M.
When people knows what they want to be become their goals. But what they are supposed to be is still a task to find out through their lives. No one knows what they are supposed to be, but later in life the person will soon realize their potential.
Becoming what a person truly wants become requires courage. Only the person knows what he or she truly wants to become. Outside inluences have tried to determine that every person has a set identity. They need to conform and be what society wants them to be. However, if the person decides to conform, they will be miserable. We are too concenred with impressing others and being accepted as normal; sometimes we have to be a little selfish and become what we want to be.
This reminds me of a quote that we went over in formation last week, about how a musician must make music, a poet must write, and an artist must make art in order to be at peace with himself. This idea seems similar to doing what you are supposed to do, which I think is the idea of destiny. Only following our destiny will make us truly happy, because what one wants can change so quickly so it might not bring lasting happiness.
What am I supposed to be is a very open ended quesion. For every single person the answer to this question is different. The answer to this question is not always the same as what do I want to be. There are a luck few of people who might happen to get the same answer to these two questions. There is never really a way to figure out what you are supposed to be. I feel as though once you find out what you want to be that becomes what you are supposed to be.
Austin P
I feel like when you are asked "what do you want to be" its actually an answerable question more than “what are you suppose to be” because I don’t think you know what you are suppose to be, I think that “what you are suppose to be” question is more of a religious question that only God can answer.
The person you want to be is always in reach. All you have to do is focus and try for what you want to be and that might happen. The difference between what you want to be and who you are supposed to be is that who you are supposed to be will always stay the same. It will never change.
What you want to be, means what you want to become in life, what profession you want to have one day, or even a quality you would like to obtain. What you are supposed to be, is finding you're true calling, what you truly desire to do in life. What you're supposed to be, is what you are destined to do, and finding that can be harder than finding a profession that you may "want to be".
I feel as adolecents, we are in the most shaping time of our lives. As teens, especially predominantly Catholic teens, we are told that "we should be" many different things, but overall a good person and a follower of Christ. However, what "I want to be" doesnt exactly fall right in line with that all the time. The differnce is kinda like ego vs. super ego. We are suppose to be many things, but many of those things we dont want to be. It comes down to our own desires and our own needs. It would be nice if others and their needs were a larger part of the decision making process, unfortunalty far too many of us get caught up in ourselves.
Christopher Marcheschi - per.6
What I want can be something I really desire, but cannot find the abilities to do something--like I want to be a doctor, but I dont want to go to school for 4 more years. What we are supposed to be involves our effort and abilities to achieve a certain role in life.
what you want to be is your own personal desire, its what you truely want to be. but alot of time people let other people destract them and implement what they want them to be and there left think and trying to form their life around 'what they should be'.
The question of what I want is the easy one. It is all about what you want not what you are cut out to do. In other words it means your dreams and aspiractions. But these do not always work out for everyone. Some times you are not the right fit for your dreams. That is when what you are ment to be takes over. You are then guided to what you are good at and what you truely enjoy doing.
When asked "what do you want to be?" one's initial response is to think of a position or role that pleases them the most. On the otherhand, when questioned "what are you supposed to be" one must look at their personality and strengths and decide to what niche are they best suited. The former tends to benifit the individual, but the latter can help the world.
What people "want to be" describes what they desire or wish to accomplish. What they are "supposed to be" is what they called to do, what they sould be. For instance I never "want" to do homework, but I am "supposed" to do it. However,I believe that what we are supposed to be is usually what we truely desire deep down (but perhaps do not recognize at the moment). For example, I want to be a lawyer, which means I want to be intellectually competent (RIPLOC!), which means I really do want to do my homework. Like Frankl says, pleasures and agression(distractions) keep us from the pursuit of meaning. Or shallow wants keep us from fullfilling our deep desires. They keep us from what we are "supposed" to be, from reaching our full potential.
When people say that they want to be something, that is what they desire, but that doesn't mean that is what they were meant to do. For example, someone may want to be a doctor but not have the intellegence level required for this field meaning they were not meant to be a doctor. They only desire to be something they were not meant to be.
What you should be is what a family or society might want you to be. What you want to be may be something completely different. What you want to be may not bring in as much money or may not follow the family trend but it will make you happy in the long run.
Meg Monaghan
What you want to be is the idea that you have for yourself based on information you have where as what you are suppose to be is your final cause , familiar or unfamiliar to you unfamiliar to you, but is where you will derive the most success.
In the gist of life people generally do not know what they want to be, it can lead to confusion or emptyiness; i nthe sense that they do not ant to do something that will make them miserable. Since money is a major neccesity in today's society people generally settle for what could be simple or "What I am suppose to be" which correlates to the idea of how society percieves you. The other notion of "What i want to be..." basically implies the idea of what an individual desires, enjoy's and possibly dreams of doing for a living. On the contrary, nobaody really knows what will be of their of live until that moment comes along.....
What one wants to be is be seems to be more like what one thinks he is supposed to be. The girl in the film clip thinks she is supposed to be a writer/photographer. It seems like most of one's young adult life is experimentation with different careers before one finds out what he truly wants to be (or what he is supposed to be). This is why Tom Hanks's character advises the girl to not worry, as she'll eventually figure out what she wants to do. For example, Alan Greenspan, as a young man, wanted to play clarinet in a big band, but he soon figured out life as a musician wasn't for him, a realization that eventually led to his studying economics.
The question of 'what we want to be' is more the question of what our goals are in life. What do we hope for? What do we want to do? What do we want our next step to be? Whereas the question of 'what we are supposed to be' seems more like a question of our desiny. The two questions will probably intertwine many times during our lives, because if we spend our time trying to reach our goals, we will at one point realize what we are destined to be.
The question of 'what we want to be' is more the question of what our goals are in life. What do we hope for? What do we want to do? What do we want our next step to be? Whereas the question of 'what we are supposed to be' seems more like a question of our desiny. The two questions will probably intertwine many times during our lives, because if we spend our time trying to reach our goals, we will inevitably at one point realize what we are destined to be.
I think that what you want to do has to deal with a person's desires and what would make them happy. Sometimes, though, what you want to do is not the smartest and most logical thing to do and it leads to what you should/supposed to do. Usually, what you're supposed to do deals with you're characteristics and should end up making you happy, too. Therefore, I see some differences between the two questions, but I see more similarities.
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